Unconditional Love

People not that into it, actually.

I have a theory. Most men and women alike prefer a love with expectations — one that makes them suffer and fight and jump through hoops — because ultimately most people seek love as a way to feel good about themselves, and if they don’t feel like they’re EARNING it (making mistakes, upsetting the other person, and them making up for it) they don’t enjoy it as much.

If Judy accepts Jack as he is, Jack may just not be as engaged as he might if had to pay for her love. It’s like somebody gave you a car for free. You’re like, “Um, really? Uh… is there something I should know about the car? Is it TOTALLY HAUNTED?”

Can romantic love under these terms even BE unconditional? Can a person be an active participant in a relationship that doesn’t involve struggle? Can a partnership be about something other than proving your worth, and if so, then what is that something?

These are questions I am having.

I have had a lot of caffeine.

caffeine molecule


Draws. Sweats. Eats too much sugar-free candy.

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5 Responses

  1. Tory says:

    I’m gonna need a new pair of running shoes.

    Also — WHAT’S UP, COZY? Welcome, welcome…

  2. Cozy says:

    Gotta agree. Check out Ephesians 5: 22-28. (If you don’t like Jesus, just imagine you said it) The point is that true love is an impossibly attainable goal. It’s the speed of light; the closer you get to it, the harder it is to reach. It’s maddening, but rewarding. I don’t think I can give up on love because the alternative is stand still, and how much does that suck?

  3. Tory says:

    I have heard that a real partnership isn’t 50/50. It’s 100/100. Each person puts in 100% of what they’ve got, not keeping track of what they think the other person’s putting in.

    That sounds about right to meeeeee.

    (Grammar polices please pardon my noun/pronoun disagreement.)

  4. Relationships can be competitive (not usually a good thing). They’re definitely all about back and forth though.

    Love, however, is never about being in debt. I think it’s the opposite. Like an infinite line of credit with no accounting department.

  5. FormerUni says:

    I have had a lot of caffeine.

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